Steps to Recover Self-Love
We all stumble. We all have fears. We all have pain. We are all learning. We are more alike than we realize.
It’s very easy to fall for comparing yourself to others. We are constantly bombarded with advertisements, messages and signals that would indicate that we are less than worthy of shining in our own light.
When you look at anyone else, you must remember that they are fighting their own battle. Some people express it overtly; others deal with it secretly. It doesn’t matter what they do or what’s going on in their life – what matters in your life is YOUR LIFE!
Now is the time to focus on the well-being of the only person that matters in your life. Yes, I hear all you mama’s (I’m a mother too!) piping up that your child matters more to you than anyone else, but trust me – if your SELF is not in a good space, you will not be able to authentically step into being a good mom... Just because we think that someone else matters more than our own self doesn’t mean that is healthy thinking!
Now, get yourself over to a mirror – take a good look at the face that is looking back at you – SHE IS THE ONLY PERSON THAT MATTERS TO YOU! YOU are the one!
(I will talk about mirror work in a future blog. Just a little preview – mirror work is intense healing and incredibly transformative in how you see yourself! There are side effects, especially tears, and you will shed buckets of them as you connect with your heart, your pain and your essence. You will touch parts of you that hurt and you have kept hidden in your soul. This is normal. The tears, the mirror and your self – I promise you will love it!)
For today, I offer you some ways to step into recovering your self-love and ways to soothe yourself while softening what is causing you stress, anxiety or discomfort. As you are stronger in loving yourself, you will find it so much easier to get through the deeper transformation and healing.
My favourite way to connect with myself, you will find this invaluable, write in a journal. Anything goes for this journal writing. LET IT OUT! Say what you feel, what you think – it’s okay - let it all out. Go for it. Once you start putting words on paper, they will flow. If this starts to feel overwhelming, pause and put your hand on your heart, close your eyes and see what surfaces. What do you feel?
Are there tears? Let them flow.
Are you angry? WRITE IN CAPS!!
Let it all out! If you are like me, the feelings and words come faster than I can write them down! It’s ok – soon you will be aligned and able to get it all on paper.
If you are concerned that someone else will read these deeply personal thoughts and feelings, it’s perfectly okay to rip up, shred if need be, these pages. That can also be cathartic – it’s like – I wrote it out, got it out, feel relief from that, and now it doesn’t matter anymore – I can get rid of it – gone – good riddance.
At the end of it all – wander back to that mirror, look at that reflection and blow yourself a kiss! You are perfectly okay, perfectly capable and perfectly imperfect – isn’t that better.
OTHER GREAT WAYS TO SOOTHE YOURSELF AND RECOVER SELF-LOVE
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